We all have mountains in our lives – things that seem insurmountable. Challenges.
Maybe it’s something from the past that needs to be overcome. Maybe it’s stress. Maybe a current problem that came up in life.
We moved across the country this summer. We’ve moved a lot over the years. This move was by FAR the most peaceful move we have ever done. But moving is still stressful. There’s a lot to do to get settled. Add in excited children who need a lot of entertaining – that’s been my mountain. Getting us settled and moved in while caring for four elementary aged kids without losing focus. IT’s been quite a struggle. So, I focus on mastering my mountain. Watch how I do it and why it works.
What happens in childhood lasts into adulthood. But, we can connect with our inner child and work toward healing. Return to this and repeat this meditation as often as needed. Soon, you will be able to quickly connect with your child self and meet those needs and move forward. Practice makes perfect!
When I left the church, I floundered. I had just moved 1,000 miles from “home.” I knew nobody. My marriage was crap – we had decided to try again after a separation. I had just JUST given birth to our fourth baby (moved when she was 7 weeks old).
My community was gone. The church was the center of my community for most of my life and now it wasn’t safe. I had recognized the trauma it had caused. Toxic fundamentalism was the root of so many of our issues.
I turned to my oils.
Cedarwood was speaking to me. The oil of community. Cedarwood was one of the oils that helped me work through the crap, put up good boundaries, and build a loving community again – one based on true connections rather than propriety (not the easiest thing to find in the south).
It wasn’t easy. I felt like I didn’t fit in. I didn’t fit in. In an area where an introduction goes like “Hi! I’m so-and-so! What’s your name? What church do you go to?” Yeah – not many people had the emotional ability to hear my truth. And that’s ok. Not my tribe.
Cedarwood helped me be open to those nos and to wait for the yeses. Bonus – cedarwood helps our bodies with appropriate melatonin production which has been helpful with four little ones at bedtime. It is also our tantrum buster as it can support the fight/flight response.
If you’d like to get your hands on some cedarwood oil, feel free to email me at audramichellewrites @ gmail . com (without the spaces) so I can help you save the most money. Or simply use the shopping cart I have set up in this link to get yours to try.
I hate shopping for myself. I hate it. HATE. IT. I get overwhelmed very easily and get stuck in the cycle of perfection or freeze. I go round and round about what if the outfit I’m choosing isn’t right? Or doesn’t fit the same after it’s washed? Or doesn’t look as good as I think it does? What if I’m wasting money? Why are there no clothes made for someone as short as I am? What if I gain weight soon? Lose weight? Should I just wait until I’m stable?
So, I sent shopping back. I started doing clothing subscription boxes. I can select styles I like and try a few selections in my home. I can wear that pair of jeans for an hour to see if they will end up baring my ass or not. I can try that blazer on with other pieces in my wardrobe to see if it actually goes with anything. And then I return what I don’t like.
Our emotions and energies can be overwhelming, just like shopping is for me. Up until age 12-ish, kids have a very hard time distinguishing whose emotions they are feeling. They are sensitive to energies – moreso than adults who have been taught to silence that part of themselves. But as adults, we can re-learn how to sort through the emotions that are sending us off kilter. Having tools to deal with what we uncover is crucial.
Here is a very short guided meditation exercise to help with just that. Once you do it with me a few times, you’ll be able to do it on your own any time you are feeling off. You can teach your children how to do the same. It’s amazing how much other people’s negative emotions can affect us – especially those of us who are empaths.
What is this whole life coaching thing and how am I doing it differently?
Coaching comes in more flavors than Baskin Robins ice cream. You can find business coaches, life coaches, relationship coaches, and every specialization you can imagine within those and more.
How do I specialize?
I focus my counseling in two basic ways:
individual life coaching
I help you find your true self and create goals with action steps that move you toward the life you want. My job is to listen to what you aren’t saying, piece it together with your words, and help you see both the bigger picture and a deeper truth. I’m not here to tell you what to do or what is best for you. I’m here to help you sift through life and the noise to find your best path and to help you stay accountable with the action steps we create.
I spent 10 years in a cult and the past 6 years recovering. I am very good at helping people find themselves again after getting out of an unhealthy religious organization. I am very good at helping people take the faith steps that are right for them – either with walking away from the religion or stepping back in but in a healthy way.
How Does It Work?
We have a free 15 minute conversation to see if we are a good fit and I have a program that is a good fit for you.
For either individual or group work, we have an intake session where we get to know each other a bit and start figuring out what goals we want to set.
We create a plan with action steps. We include the integrative items that interest you (essential oils, journaling, meditation, affirmations, yoga, etc)
We meet according to the package purchased and work toward achieving the goals.
What do I Get Out of It?
Increased clarity on your core self
Attainable goals that fit your true self
A step by step plan to reach your goals
Accountability and compassionate support
But more than anything, you get yourself back. No matter if you’ve been hurt by a church or have been knocked around a bit by life, working with me can help you find yourself again.
As I woke up New Year’s Eve morning, I lazily scrolled through Facebook. I happened upon my memories. I found a super cute video of my kids, so much smaller, doing their own ball drop. But I also found something else that caught my attention.
I started reading my past musings of the changing of the year. I noticed a shocking trend. Each year, I ended the year saying something to the effect of “Good Riddance! I can’t wait for the new year!”
I get it. I was ready for a new start each year. Some years were harder than others. In general, I wanted the pain from the last year to go away and the new year to be filled with amazing love and happiness.
But the reality is that there will always be pain. Each year will bring happiness and grief. The pain we experience causes growth.
I submit to you that I have been approaching each new year in a less-than-helpful way. I’ve started each year with a negative. Good riddance! I bet I’m not the only one who eagerly wished away the past year, focusing on the negatives.
Join me in a challenge.
I am challenging myself to thank the hard times. Thank those times for the experience and the lessons. For the growth. Thank 2018 for the rough times – for what they taught you and thank 2018 for the amazing gifts it gave. Honor it. And then move on.
2018 was full of incredibly difficult life changes. I got divorced and then un-divorced. I was forced to take a hard look at every aspect of life and relationships. 2018 taught me my strength. It helped me clarify my own values and helped me slow down. 2018 helped me grow in gratitude.
I wish I could have avoided the pain that came last year, but since I cannot wish it away, I can be grateful. I am thankful for the person 2018 has taught me to be. I wouldn’t want to be any different.
2018 – thank you. Thank you for your beauty. Thank you for your fun. And thank you for your trials. Thank you for challenging me to grow and be a better me. I send you off with love. 2019 – welcome. I welcome you warmly. May you be filled with love and prosperity. May we grow to the person able to weather your obstacles. Welcome.
I challenge you to intentionally and positively send off 2018 and welcome 2019. Start the year off with the best energy possible.